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Originally Posted by Alura You might just try being friendly with single women. Don't come across as a guy who is desperately looking for a relationship. "Friends first" is a good philosophy in building a strong relationship.
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Oh I don't. You see, I've actually read a lot about dating and women. I've read so much stuff that I probably "get it" better than most people do at an intellectual level. Just that when it comes to actually doing it, it's still pretty difficult because I tend to tense up, get bad feelings in my stomach and my mind turns blank. I write lines and routines on a cheat sheet and look at it a lot to help me out
I'm not sure the friends first philosophy is that great though. I don't agree with it. I think that just shoves you in a best friend kind of a category. I think you have to make it known your interested in the girl. Yes, not in the beginning. I wouldn't go up to a girl and say, "Wow, you're beautiful" or "you have nice shoes" (those are actually bad thing to do). But I think you have to show value to her in the form of your independance, interesting personality, maturity, high character, humour, leadership ability, pre-selection by other women, high social status and number of other things that women find attractive.