[LikeMinds321]

Out of the selections I chose "It's okay" because watching MrLM having sex with other women doesn't change my state of arousal.

He feels that thinking about me with other men and thinking back to when he watched me with other men is more arousing than when he's in the moment.

For these reasons I think we are especially comfortable playing out of view of the other and will even consider playing alone with select friends with benefits. Talking to each other about what happened - that the other was not there to see - is more erotic for us.

We made this surprising discovery when at our first suite party at a club, people were having sex all around us and watching this didn't do a thing for either of us. The act of sex itself isn't the arousal and pleasure for us. It is the "story" that can go with it when we've taken time - one on one - with another couple to intimately develop our arousal for each other as the evening progresses to that moment when we connect in body and mind with the person(s) with whom we have sex.

Both MrLM and I like to concentrate fully on our swing partner when we play.

The more I learn about ourselves, and learn about other swingers preferences, the more out of the norm I feel we are.

LM