The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Looking for friendship more than sex, where to find it?

WesternSwing · 01-19-2006, 06:41 PM

We have found some that are just on the fringes of the lifestyle, the people that want to be a part of it without actually being a part of it. And we have because we are the friendly sort we are we have become friends with them some, even if it is just a sexier version of a vanilla date.

We have also been with some newbies without any drama, and been on multiple dates before anything happened. Sometimes it happens on the first date. It all just depends on the people involved and the vibes between everyone.

So we just play it by ear, not expecting anything other then meeting a new couple when we go out. If more happens, great, if it doesn't we still had a good time going out. So the evening is never a waste. But, we wouldn't want to keep dating a couple with the promise of sex and it never happens. If it won't happen then we need to all agree it won't and then be friends outside of sex and not drag it out.

Mr. WS

01-19-2006, 06:41 PM	#11 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: We're not just in it for the sex... We have found some that are just on the fringes of the lifestyle, the people that want to be a part of it without actually being a part of it. And we have because we are the friendly sort we are we have become friends with them some, even if it is just a sexier version of a vanilla date. We have also been with some newbies without any drama, and been on multiple dates before anything happened. Sometimes it happens on the first date. It all just depends on the people involved and the vibes between everyone. So we just play it by ear, not expecting anything other then meeting a new couple when we go out. If more happens, great, if it doesn't we still had a good time going out. So the evening is never a waste. But, we wouldn't want to keep dating a couple with the promise of sex and it never happens. If it won't happen then we need to all agree it won't and then be friends outside of sex and not drag it out. Mr. WS
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