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I don't think I posted to your question either negetively or in a positive way, but I think I can answer your question.

Originally Posted by Cutecouple30

I do have a question for those who strongly oppose the situation...what is so different between my thread and this one:
http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...read.php?t=615
That person got a much more positive response about involving friends.

I think the main difference and the reason I would be much more carefull in this situation is that he and your husband work for the same company. We have seen many posts and some of us have personal experience which makes us believe that mixing work and swinging can often go wrong in a bad way, and should be avoided.

Originally Posted by Cutecouple30

Also, I am sooo confused by the whole "you have an attraction to him...this is risky." Should I not be attracted to someone I will potentially have sex with? Personally, I hope to have an attraction to whomever we eventually explore this with. If we have the chance to do a FMF, it HAS to be with someone Mr is attracted to as well.

As long as it is just physical attraction then the answer is, yes, of course you need to be attracted to him. On the other hand if you have an emotional attraction to him that usually isn't good in swinging. The reason I think some people might think it would be risky is that it seems to me that it is much easier to develope emotional feelings for a long time friend than it is for someone you are not so intimately familiar with.


Personally, we have approached friends before and it did not go well, but it is a decision you have to make for yourselves as others have had it work out just fine.