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Originally Posted by Nervous1023 Have you a chance to ask yourself how you would feel if the situaton was reversed? Could you let hubby be with your lifelong friend knowing he was attracted? I personally think this can lead to problems. But I'm new too.  |
Although we've had opportunities present themselves, we've never actually taken the plunge. With that in mind, we completely agree with the above comment. Adding a close personal friend of your husband's, who you admittedly have an attraction to, seems pretty risky to us. On top of that, this man works for the same company that your husband does, which is a disaster waiting to happen. All this other guy has to do is let it slip (not even on purpose) that he is having sex with the married woman of a co-worker, and all hell can break lose. That kind of gossip makes the rounds faster than a speeding bullet. Have you or your husband even entertained the thought that this secret may very well come out in his workplace? How do you both feel about that?
If we were to ever attempt a threesome (either MFM or FMF), we would want that third person to have no type of relationship with either of us. Seeing your spouse with another person for the first time is risky enough as is, all the emotions that can surface. Having that third person be a close personal friend of either one of us adds another dimension, that in our opinion, is best left after you've had some experience in the lifestyle, such as many of the regular posters on this board. Again, while we've never, and probably never will, progress any further than talking, we've gotten A LOT of information from this board to help us reach an informed decision that is right for us. We hope you use all the threads to that end.