[davidnjoy]

First let me say that I already like you. You will find that the quality people in this lifestyle are actually somewhat more interested in personality than they are in straight out physical appearance. I am not saying that physical attraction is not an important component but, as I've experienced, you gotta stimulate the largest sex organ, my brain. The best experiences I have had have been with people who I have gotten to know first. We tend to get to know people a little before playing (but not always). I, somewhat more than my partner, do best if I can establish a little bit of a connection with my play partners prior to playing. I too have body image concerns from the male perspective. I am athletic but with a large belly. In the beginning I had difficulty with this. Thinking that others would not be attracted to me. What a misconception this turned out to be. What my partner finds sexy and attractive in me others found as well...go figure. Sometimes our fear can make us very shortsighted. You are not relegated to the "ugly corner". You will find that "geeks"(my word) are not only welcome but treasured.

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