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Have you a chance to ask yourself how you would feel if the situaton was reversed? Could you let hubby be with your lifelong friend knowing he was attracted?
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Well, I have to be attracted to someone I'm going to have sex with...and no, I wouldn't have a problem if the situation were reversed. WE want him involved in a 3some with US. I don't want to cheat on my husband with him...difference.
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He may be in a different department, but what if he let it slip that you two are swingers? What would be the reprocussions at your husband's work? You want to trust him, but are you absolutely sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that he won't talk? Keep in mind that in most people's minds in this situation he is the stud for having sex with someone else's wife and you two are the freaks. He would keep his job and your hubby could lose his.
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This is someone hubby trusts completely and this guy has confided BIGTIME secrets with hubby. Idon't see him flapping his jaws to anyone. I don't see how my husband would lose his job?
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So, just out of hand I wouldn't give this person a "your out" just because of some rule. You guys know this person really, really well - is he the type of person you can trust, even if he gets mad?
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I'm not sure I understand this? Can someone clarify?
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It is sort of wierd that you known this guy since childhood, but don't know if he would be intrested in a lifestyle opportunity.
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Hubby 'knows' he would say yes, I guess it's me that is unsure. I don't know him super well. I haven't known him, myself, since childhood. Oh, and I don't know if he is attracted to me either (I'm very attractive, but everyone has their 'type'.)
Thanks for the advice/insight. Keep it coming!