[WesternSwing]

The only problem here is "loose lips sink ships". He may be in a different department, but what if he let it slip that you two are swingers? What would be the reprocussions at your husband's work? You want to trust him, but are you absolutely sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that he won't talk? Keep in mind that in most people's minds in this situation he is the stud for having sex with someone else's wife and you two are the freaks. He would keep his job and your hubby could lose his.

Even asking him, if he says "no" could be trouble in that he could go to a buddy and say "Dude, guess what Joe just asked me!" and your outed.

This is why we have a "no coworkers" rule.

If you are absolultely sure he will keep it silent (which if he is smart he will because it will just insure him more fun in the future) then go for it. Have hubby ask him "hey, the Mrs. and I have been thinking about a threesome and we think you are the one we'd like to explore this with."

If he says "yes" then you all need to get together and discuss this beforehand so you are all on the same page about what is going to happen and what will happen afterward.

Mr. WS