A little background.... Mr and I have been married 6 years, have 3 children, are both 30. We have been intersted in swinging for quite a few years and are in a place where we are ready to go for it. We are interested in MFM, FMF, and possibly even full-swap eventually (one step at a time!) Neither of us have ANY experience, so we are just kind of flying by the seat of our pants, but have gotten a lot of great advice and info from this site.
ANYWAYS..... He has a friend (male) we would like to ask to join us for our first MFM adventure. This person is very attractive to me, has known Mr. since they were kids, they work for the same company, although not in the same dept, and he trusts him completely. I have hung out with him occasionally, gone to parties he's attended, gone camping together, etc. I'm attracted to him and he just seems like the perfect guy for our first (and possibly 2nd, 3rd, etc.) experience. The thing is he (as far as we know) isn't in the lifestle. We have no idea what he will say.
Mr. is going to ask him in the next few days what his thoughts are and ask if he's interested. Is this the 'correct' way to proceed? Should we be asking someone who is probably not in the lifestyle? Any advice on how we should get together? I want things to be as comfortable as possible...I'm sure we will all be a little nervous if this pans out. Advice? Help? Please?
