The Swingers Board - View Single Post - He Wants FMF, She Wants MFM

Coupleinidaho · 01-16-2006, 07:50 PM

We wouldn't call this a double-standard. It's not as if he wants to participate with the other woman, he just wants to enjoy watching you enjoy yourself with her. Now if he wanted to participate, and then said no to MFM, that would be a double-standard. A husband watching his wife with another woman is one thing, but he and the other woman are not the same, and it'd be like comparing apples to oranges. A husband watching his wife with another man, now that's a different story.

I guess we're just not clear on your post in regards to if you're playing with this other woman is more for your enjoyment or his. If the former, then we don't see a double-standard, your husband is just setting his boundaries as far as bringing another person into the bedroom. If it's the latter, then some serious communication between the two of you is in order.

01-16-2006, 07:50 PM	#15 (permalink)
Coupleinidaho Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 57 Location: Idaho Status: Couple	Re: He Wants FMF, She Wants MFM - Compromise? We wouldn't call this a double-standard. It's not as if he wants to participate with the other woman, he just wants to enjoy watching you enjoy yourself with her. Now if he wanted to participate, and then said no to MFM, that would be a double-standard. A husband watching his wife with another woman is one thing, but he and the other woman are not the same, and it'd be like comparing apples to oranges. A husband watching his wife with another man, now that's a different story. I guess we're just not clear on your post in regards to if you're playing with this other woman is more for your enjoyment or his. If the former, then we don't see a double-standard, your husband is just setting his boundaries as far as bringing another person into the bedroom. If it's the latter, then some serious communication between the two of you is in order.