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Flori_DAMAN · 12-20-2002, 05:29 PM

I believe usually it is a case of misrepresentation. Before the internet I believe the no-shows were less common. The internet obviously has the anonymity shield. People can claim to be just bout anything online. If you go into chat rooms just look at how many guys have names like Hunglikeahorse etc.

Many married guys may "test the waters", saying whatever they feel like but when friday night comes around wifey doesn't buy the excuse that he's going to the emergency mechanics certified board meeting.

Some probably do chicken out also. It is genuinely inherent for a lonely person that has insecurities to be wanted. Maybe the guy is single because he doesn't communicate in real life well. But online he can be superstud. Words online never show quivering voices or wandering, nervous eyes. You have time to prepare your response when you are e-mailing.

We have rarely had the no-show problem though because of very careful screening. We don't just buy the guy at face value. Pictures of course are important but also we need a home phone number that can be called at anytime. This in itself eliminates 90% of the married guys posing as single. Cell phones or pagers or work numbers don't cut it.

Several actual phone calls are necessary also. You can judge quite a bit about a person with a real conversation. And for crying out loud shut off your caller ID before you call him! Don't ever give out your home phone number and make sure its unlisted. Even after meeeting a seemingly nice guy you could have a stalker on your hands. On the first meet don't talk about where you work or hang out either. There are truly a lot of nuts out there and I believe some couples take too many chances online.

A web cam is something any real single guy should have if he hopes at all to connect online. THey cost bout 19 dollars so there is no excuse to not have one. Some guys claim they don't even have a pic.....well that should clue you in....

Many have said they just don't use the net for finding single guys and I can see why, but we have had very good luck with it even though we may have met a total of 5 guys or so in 5 years. John.

12-20-2002, 05:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	I believe usually it is a case of misrepresentation. Before the internet I believe the no-shows were less common. The internet obviously has the anonymity shield. People can claim to be just bout anything online. If you go into chat rooms just look at how many guys have names like Hunglikeahorse etc. Many married guys may "test the waters", saying whatever they feel like but when friday night comes around wifey doesn't buy the excuse that he's going to the emergency mechanics certified board meeting. Some probably do chicken out also. It is genuinely inherent for a lonely person that has insecurities to be wanted. Maybe the guy is single because he doesn't communicate in real life well. But online he can be superstud. Words online never show quivering voices or wandering, nervous eyes. You have time to prepare your response when you are e-mailing. We have rarely had the no-show problem though because of very careful screening. We don't just buy the guy at face value. Pictures of course are important but also we need a home phone number that can be called at anytime. This in itself eliminates 90% of the married guys posing as single. Cell phones or pagers or work numbers don't cut it. Several actual phone calls are necessary also. You can judge quite a bit about a person with a real conversation. And for crying out loud shut off your caller ID before you call him! Don't ever give out your home phone number and make sure its unlisted. Even after meeeting a seemingly nice guy you could have a stalker on your hands. On the first meet don't talk about where you work or hang out either. There are truly a lot of nuts out there and I believe some couples take too many chances online. A web cam is something any real single guy should have if he hopes at all to connect online. THey cost bout 19 dollars so there is no excuse to not have one. Some guys claim they don't even have a pic.....well that should clue you in.... Many have said they just don't use the net for finding single guys and I can see why, but we have had very good luck with it even though we may have met a total of 5 guys or so in 5 years. John.