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Originally Posted by Nervous1023 I still have some mixed emotions about doing this as to what I am comfortable with. I have a question here that might help me if you can answer it... Can a couple be with another couple only with the oral/touching boundaries and only be with thier mate? Honestly I think ( at first) this would be the only way I felt okay as what I allow my hubby oral and touched to get and vice versa. I hope I don't sound strange. I don't mind hubby getting oral if I know he's only gonna be in me. I haven't been with anyone but him and we've been married 12 years. I don't want to "share" him, but adding the other parts to enhance I can be alright with. ( actually I get turned on by this thought ) Anyone else do this or feel this way???? Or am I not ready for this at all??? Please be honest with your answers....I don't want to make a mistake. |
You are doing the right thing taking it slow. Sometimes it's hard to find a couple to play with that will only do soft swap, and no couple wants to be the source of any problems that could arise in your marriage as you test the waters, so be very sure this is what you want before you get into it. The point here is that you are involving other people in you experiment in your marriage. It wouldn't be fair to them if you or your husband freaked-out during or afterward, they would feel terrible.
So talk it over more with your husband and decide exactly what you are okay with and what you aren't. From there you can move forward with finding a couple that is a good match for you.
Mr. WS