 Re: Question for my first time
Nervous, another newbie here and my SO and I are only soft swap at this time. I am perfectly fine with foreplay, oral, and all that but I know that in my heart I am not ready to watch him have intercourse with someone else. I am proudly the "slowest runner" and therefore, we go at my pace. My So is perfectly happy with that. We have still fulfilled a couple of fantasies and have had some really good fun and met some great people. Two couples we have spent time with are soft swap as well, so limits and boundaries were not a problem; we were all on the same page. The last couple was typically a full swap couple but they respected our limitations and still made a date and we had a ball. We just move along at the pace I am comfortable with and even the first soft swap was a little emotional for me so taking "baby steps" is the way to go. He is ready to watch me with another man, thinks it would be really hot and I am ready to do that but I have told him, in all honestly that I cannot reciprocate and watch him with another woman . It's just the page I am on right now and he is perfectly okay with that. We figure things will fall into place and boundaries will disappear in their own time and naturally with the right couple and right time. For you veterans out there.. is it odd for me to be okay with fucking another man yet not be okay with him doing the woman? I am really okay with giving him the show he wants and its not about being one sided (he really loves to watch me do my thing!) I just know that my heart is not there yet and dont want us to crash and burn. |