The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Should we give these people another chance?

JandCMI · 01-15-2006, 12:26 AM

There is a couple that we have known for several months, have gotten along with well (except for one incident described below), hooked up with several times and generally are happy to know. When we hook up with these people the sessions usually last for several hours and are quite compatible sexually.

The problems are as follows:

We had an incident with them during the summer that made C and I both quite uncomfortable. We were hanging out with them in a vanilla situation in public when the other girl got really liquored up and became verbally abusive with a service employee who was taking care of us. When her guy checked her and I agreed with him (trust me, her behavior was THAT bad), she got all silent and sort of spoiled the day after that with her attitude.

After we went our separate ways and some time passed we decided to just let it go figuring it wasn't such a big deal. We hadn't hooked up with them since then anyways due to busy schedules until last week...

She calls me last weekend asking what we were doing that Saturday and wondering if we wanted to hook up (like you even need to ask us that!). We agreed they would come over to our place at 5 the next day. The next day rolls around at 5, no sign of them. 6 oclock, no sign of them either. I called the other guy's phone (C and I have sort of decided at this point that he is the one with his head screwed on straight) and he tells me that his girl was giving him "some bullshit" and he took off to go hang with his buddy for a while. Apparently they got into a fight over some minor nonsense. I asked, "So I guess we aren't on tonight then?" to which he told me he thought his girl was supposed to call us - which she didn't. I called her and got her voicemail. By this point it was already 6:30 so C and I just said "fuck it" and went about our evening without them.

I got a call from the other girl at about 7:30 that I let voice mail pick up saying her man just got home and was showered and to call them if we weren't busy. We didn't call back. In short, they were supposed to come at 5 but didn't so much as call to even let us know they weren't going to make it. When I called her to find out what was going on, she couldn't even answer the call. Rude, rude, rude. This coupled with the incident this summer really makes us wonder if we should even bother with these people anymore since drama and uncertainty seem to really be showing themselves with them.

What do you guys think?

01-15-2006, 12:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
JandCMI Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 82 Location: Detroit, Michigan Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jandcmi28	Should we give these people another chance? There is a couple that we have known for several months, have gotten along with well (except for one incident described below), hooked up with several times and generally are happy to know. When we hook up with these people the sessions usually last for several hours and are quite compatible sexually. The problems are as follows: We had an incident with them during the summer that made C and I both quite uncomfortable. We were hanging out with them in a vanilla situation in public when the other girl got really liquored up and became verbally abusive with a service employee who was taking care of us. When her guy checked her and I agreed with him (trust me, her behavior was THAT bad), she got all silent and sort of spoiled the day after that with her attitude. After we went our separate ways and some time passed we decided to just let it go figuring it wasn't such a big deal. We hadn't hooked up with them since then anyways due to busy schedules until last week... She calls me last weekend asking what we were doing that Saturday and wondering if we wanted to hook up (like you even need to ask us that!). We agreed they would come over to our place at 5 the next day. The next day rolls around at 5, no sign of them. 6 oclock, no sign of them either. I called the other guy's phone (C and I have sort of decided at this point that he is the one with his head screwed on straight) and he tells me that his girl was giving him "some bullshit" and he took off to go hang with his buddy for a while. Apparently they got into a fight over some minor nonsense. I asked, "So I guess we aren't on tonight then?" to which he told me he thought his girl was supposed to call us - which she didn't. I called her and got her voicemail. By this point it was already 6:30 so C and I just said "fuck it" and went about our evening without them. I got a call from the other girl at about 7:30 that I let voice mail pick up saying her man just got home and was showered and to call them if we weren't busy. We didn't call back. In short, they were supposed to come at 5 but didn't so much as call to even let us know they weren't going to make it. When I called her to find out what was going on, she couldn't even answer the call. Rude, rude, rude. This coupled with the incident this summer really makes us wonder if we should even bother with these people anymore since drama and uncertainty seem to really be showing themselves with them. What do you guys think? __________________ How can you expect to come to our party when you don't bring a dish of your own?