[Thrax]

Originally Posted by Uomo

What first inspired you to swing ... as a single male?

I was a couple of lonely months out of relationship and I wasn't gettin' any.

That's sort of true. I was having difficulty getting back into dating after a long absence. I was a little burned out emotionally and not really meeting women I wanted to spend much time with. And yes, I was horny. At that time there was an article in a local weekly entertainment paper, -- or maybe even a daily paper, I don't remember -- about the legal problems a SW Penna swing club was having. I read all the articles I could find on the club (Mt. Retreat, now closed), looked at their website, looked at the NASCA site and other swinger websites. I just did a lot of research. That's my style. And of course all this information intrigued me and got me even more worked up.

A lot of what I read was really exciting, because I had been previously fairly conservative sexually. My previous relationships had mostly been satisfying, but all had been monogamous. I'm generally a rules-follower. Since I wasn't committed to anyone I decided to experiment and see what would happen. I had never taken a step out of the "normal" sexual bounds. I wanted to see what "true no-strings attached" sex was. Well, of course, there's no such thing but I did find out about swinging.

I was so nervous when I finally got to the club the first time that I almost made myself sick. After the tour of the club I sat at a stool right in the middle of the bar, which was a good move. I finally worked up the nerve to talk to a couple. I told them it was my first time attempting swinging. They and some other people answered a lot of my questions and told several extremely funny stories of their previous encounters and some of the parties at the club. It ended up being a great night. I didn't play with the couple at the bar, but I did later with another couple. Later, sitting with a group of club members at one of the tables, someone was just tossing some dice around. A woman sitting beside me told me she'd give me a blowjob if I rolled a "lucky seven." I think she might have regardless. She gave me three tries!

Anyway, as I've said before, I quickly learned that, at least for me, there really is no "no-strings-attached" sex, and it can't take the place of a true committed relationship. I realize how lucky I was with my first swing encounter, but it also made me optimistic that my chances of getting laid at swing events were reasonably good!

Since then I go to a club, house party, campout, or meet up with a couple or single woman in the lifestyle every one or two months. It's generally a real interesting diversion to vanilla dating...and I've done a few things I would have never really thought I'd ever do.

How do you compare sex in the lifestyle to sex in the singles dating scene? Do you have a preference?

For one thing, I think women who enjoy swinging are much more apt to be comfortable with themselves as sexual beings. They seem, for the most part, to be able to relax much easier in a sexual encounter. And as a rule, I think women who swing are more orgasmic and have more fun because they can let themselves go a little. I find that "date sex" can be a little more tense because sometimes there is the underlying tension of the "good girl" who may not want to show that she enjoys this TOO much. And yes, there are a lot of divorced and widowed "good girls" out there.

So, I find swinging sex to be a lot less inhibited, much more relaxed.

I once fell under the impression you were a physician. I'm curious: do you have formal training in the medical arts ... or just an apparent interest in all things anatomical?

That's a new one. I don't know where you got that.

No, I just read a lot for my freelance work in the publishing industry, so I have lots of useful and useless data floating around in my head. And often, even if I don't know what I'm talking about, I can make myself sound convincing.