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Originally Posted by In2curiosity I am answering this in theory rather than fact because I am so new to all of this but this is something we have examined and talked about a lot. I don't want to be life long friends with people I play with. So much so that we are wonderful friends with a couple that we both adore and feel sexually attracted to and know that we could easily play if we wanted. This seems to be how a lot of people come into this lifestyle based on what I have read. For me I worry too much that it would damage our friendship in some way and that is too important to me to jeopardize. Now if we played with someone and then formed that type of connection it might be wonderful.....I just don't know. But for me, right now, knowing what I know, which isn't much......I prefer to keep my "real life" and my "play life" separate. But at the same time I can't imagine having sex with someone I didn't feel a connection with beyond sexual. |
In2curiosity, Spoo and I have had a wide range of sexual encounters with couples. From the couple this past year that we have no idea what their names are
(I think Spoo started a thread about it) to couples that we have a great friendship with outside of the bedroom.
Our preference is to have friends that like to do the same things as us and we can see them in other ways besides the occasional bedroom meeting. :rollseyes In fact it would be our ideal to have a circle of friends like this that all get along and can also intermittantly mix up in play.
We don't however plan to ever bring our current "vanilla" friends into the lifestyle. The two will remain separate for us in that respect. The friends we had before the lifestyle will stay that way and don't know that we are swingers. The friends we make in the lifestyle we hope to have for a long time and share other experiences with.
Mrs Spoomonkey