Quote:
|
Originally Posted by Hottunes ...the one "rule" that I did not see is "Condoms are a must".
Just a thought |
Good point. That is such a firm thing that it is almost above rule status.
Rule #1.1- Condumns are a must!
Quote:
|
Originally Posted by curiousandinter "If I may ask, what first made you decide that you wanted to do it? Was it a purely sexual thing or was it something else??? Like taking your current relationship to a new level of trust?? Wanted to enter into a new type of friendship?? Just wondering because I have been considering this for a while, but I am still not sure why I feel like I want to try.
Also, when you first did a full swap, were you all in the same room?" |
N would have to give you her perspective but here is mine- Honestly at first, I just wanted to give both of us the opportunity to have sex with other people. Nothing more. N shut me down and I accepted that it would never happen, and didn't bring it up any more. A year later, we talked a little and both of us had changed...don't ask me how or why. N was open to checking things out and I felt different about the whole deal as well. I now wanted more to see N be pleasured than anything else. I also just felt it was like some sort of hurdle that we could get past and defang the sex taboo. Like a typical guy, there was still the "I want to get some strange" feelings, but that wasn't the driver.
We did same room for several reasons- 1) We didn't want our imaginations running wild. 2) We wanted to be able to communicate with each other. 3) We both though it might be really hot to see each other with other people...for us, IT WAS!
Our sex has always been fantastic and sex with eachother is still by far the best. Sex with others is just fun and a great way to make friends (I laughed as I wrote that because it still sounds funny to me...sex to make friends...but we really have met some cool people).
Quote:
|
Originally Posted by curiousandinter "Also, would it be best to find a couple within the lifestyle prior to going to the parties and clubs so that you do not feel so unsure about yourself prior during these events." |
I could respond to the first post because it was asking for personal experience. This one though, about going to events, I will have to leave to the more experienced folks on here.
As always, thank you to all!
T of NandT