[In2curiosity]

I am 38 and I couldn't have handled the thought of swinging when I was in my 20's. I wasn't secure enough in myself. I think it is great if others can....but speaking for myself I really needed to get comfortable with myself. Society images can be rough on young women, not just the pictures and movies we see but also the fairy tale idea of what romance is and isn't. I bought it hook line and sinker and remember feeling fat when I was a size 5......never mind that I am 5' 9"......and always looked at other women comparing myself and often felt I was lacking. So because I felt that way there wasn't any way possible that I could have been convinced that my lover wasn't also doing the same.

I was also fearful......and fear is usually the underlying emotion all other feelings come from. It is easier to be angry, jealous, hurt,....or whatever other emotion you can blame someone else for making you feel. It is harder to actually look at myself and see what my fears are and where they are coming from. I couldn't have done it in my 20's and I am always amazed when I meet younger people who have already gotten there.

As for ages of people to play with....I wouldn't rule anything out.....but if they reminded me of my children or my parents that would absolutely be a mood kill.

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