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txduo2000 · 01-09-2006, 06:12 PM

Ours is a pretty simple philosophy: What's good for the goose is good for the gander, and vice versa.

Neither my husband nor myself would impose double standard restrictions upon one another in the lifestyle. It is simply not fair.

Your husband is struggling with jealousy and insecurity issues at the prospect of your being with another man. He is not threatened by any activity with you and another woman, so this is basically what it boils down to.

And the only way you are going to get past that is to communicate. Talk to him, let him know that regardless of what manner of threesome you two participate in, it is the two of YOU participating together with a third, regardless of gender, and that in your mind there is no more danger with one gender than another. The point to emphasize is that you are in it WITH each other .... not exclusive of each other, and that you wouldn't want it any other way.

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txduo2000 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 662 Location: Dallas TX Area Status: Couple	Re: He Wants FMF, She Wants MFM - Compromise? Ours is a pretty simple philosophy: What's good for the goose is good for the gander, and vice versa. Neither my husband nor myself would impose double standard restrictions upon one another in the lifestyle. It is simply not fair. Your husband is struggling with jealousy and insecurity issues at the prospect of your being with another man. He is not threatened by any activity with you and another woman, so this is basically what it boils down to. And the only way you are going to get past that is to communicate. Talk to him, let him know that regardless of what manner of threesome you two participate in, it is the two of YOU participating together with a third, regardless of gender, and that in your mind there is no more danger with one gender than another. The point to emphasize is that you are in it WITH each other .... not exclusive of each other, and that you wouldn't want it any other way. __________________ Life is not measured by how many breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.