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Originally Posted by good times I have heard before people say that they don't like the Ken and Barbie type, or some call them the beautifull people, because they snub them or aren't friendly to them when they introduce themselves. But my question is, what are they supposed to do if they don't find you attractive? We go to the club to interact with potential playmates so if someone comes up and introduces themselves that we don't find sexually attractive wouldn't we naturally give a polite greeting and then try to move on as quickly as possible? |
I had a conversation with someone at work about this very thing today. (Not in the aspect of swinging, but as regards dating.) She and I had a similar take in that we both think there's "polite" and there's "fake polite". Polite is, for example, taking the couple of minutes it might require to genuinely greet someone you're introduced to, and to at least speak to them "eye-to-eye" and sincerely. Fake polite is mumbling "hihowareya" while already looking for the next target of opportunity.
I agree with you, good times, that one may not want to spend much time with a couple one doesn't find attractive. But it also doesn't mean that one needs to be dismissive and arrogant, as it seems that all too often many K-and-B types are willing to be. Out here in the land where "Superficial" has been raised to a high art form, "fake polite" is all-too-common. It's the classic "snub":
say the "right things" while not really acknowledging the other person's existance. Sorta like lots of white people used to treat black people. And there are plenty of Ks-and-Bs out here ready, willing and able to exercise that ability.
An illustration (from another venue):
"we are looking for georgeous people to test [some lame site I deleted].com, a new HOT club for sexy hookups and wild parties.
Note: NO FUGLIES allowed (fat, ugly, over 45, stalkers, minors, etc...)"
That said, there are also lots of truly beautiful people who meet the K-and-B criteria and who are not that way at all.
What's difficult is telling the type of K-and-B with which you're about to interact.
