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Originally Posted by lcjtsd Since we are Mr. & Mrs. Average and could stand to lose 10-15 pounds each, the Ken & Barbies we have met at clubs judge just by looks. Do they make even the slightest effort to get to know us? No. One glance and the nose goes right up. We are not "Their type of people", whatever that is supposed to mean. |
This whole post makes me sad.
It's just as wrong to assume that all
pretty people have terrible personalities and that all
average people all have great personalities...
...as it is to assume that
older couples are all cheesy mulleted hot-tub rompers and
younger couples are all drama-filled newbies who can't possibly be secure in their marriage, and
single men are all just about to rape someone, and all
black men have 13-inch cocks and
swingers with kids must be boring and... is the point getting made yet?
Stereotyping is stereotyping. Being the
victim of stereotyping is not permission to start perpetrating it on others.
Mr. SSQ and I are a straight-up Mr/Mrs. Average-Looking. We have played with every single type on the attractiveness spectrum. There are great people, and there are assholes, in
every category. Ken and Barbie do not have the lock on arrogance, elitism, or ignorance, and I'll tell you that for free.
lcjtsd, I don't mean to sound dickish, I really don't -- but this:
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I know that everyone has their preferences but as I was said in the other post, there are a lot more important things that we look for than just the looks.
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...is a perfect example of my statement that K&B don't have a lock on elitism. I don't see why it's acceptable to imply that your preferences (i.e. which do not include looks) are somehow better or more noble or more "important" than someone else's which happen to be based on looks.
At the end of the day, this is all about sex. What turns one person on isn't always what turns on another. For me? it's a big fat brain, and confidence + charm, and that ain't nothin' you can get just by going to a gym. Work those and you can pretty much be Quasimodo, as far as I care. But I respect that other people care more for rock-hard abs and a porn-star ass. Different strokes, you know?
But I don't look smugly at those who
do filter for rock-hard abs and a porn-star ass. I wish them luck. Thank heavens there are enough swingers in the world that they can have what they want and I can have what I want.
(end rant, sorry)
Now, to change sides:
The two problems I have had with Ken & Barbie types are --
1. Having preferences is fine, snubbing is not. When beautiful people literally cannot have a conversation at a party or a club because they are actively snubbing anyone who isn't equally as beautiful, then they are ruining the atmosphere for me. It's a junior-high behavior borne out of a lack of self-esteem, which is quite unattractive... but worse, it's what turns perfectly nice venues into meat markets.
edited to clarify after Spoo's cross-post: I don't presume that any K&B who aren't socializing must be snubbing. I mean, you join a group, say hi to your friends, introduce yourselves to the new couple, they both give a blatant visual onceover on your physique, and then are immediately looking to meet someone else, can barely even get out "nicetomeetyou" before their eyes are roaming for someone hotter. It's happened to us and I see it happen at parties/clubs all the time. I find it quite sad.
2. Focusing on looks
to the exclusion of any other trait almost always indicates an underlying conceit that will manifest in jealousy issues, popularity contests, and materialism. That's been my experience 100% of the time. So, people who care about looks but don't care about intelligence are always going to be a no for us.
But, I can freely say that
it doesn't make them bad people... just not my type.