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WonTheSexLotto · 01-05-2006, 11:08 AM

Thanks for the valuable insight. So far, we've both had a mental connection with our one and only swing partner (an older single male). At first (before we started swinging), I thought that this would be more likely to create problems for a number of reasons. But Mrs. WTSL felt that some sort of affection, empathy or mental connection is necessary for sex (even though she had a number of successful one-night stands in her past before we met).

Anyway, I didn't really understand the importance of this until after our first experience. It's hard for me to describe, but the connection with him definitely added something. I guess it was "comforting" to have the other guy in tune with her needs. Mrs. WTSL also said that, for her own sake, a mental connection would be necessary for a future FMF. It's nice to know that others feel so strongly about it that they actually made it a rule!

- Mr. WTSL

01-05-2006, 11:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
WonTheSexLotto Active Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 18 Location: California Status: couple M/F	Re: Sex without a connection- a learning experience Thanks for the valuable insight. So far, we've both had a mental connection with our one and only swing partner (an older single male). At first (before we started swinging), I thought that this would be more likely to create problems for a number of reasons. But Mrs. WTSL felt that some sort of affection, empathy or mental connection is necessary for sex (even though she had a number of successful one-night stands in her past before we met). Anyway, I didn't really understand the importance of this until after our first experience. It's hard for me to describe, but the connection with him definitely added something. I guess it was "comforting" to have the other guy in tune with her needs. Mrs. WTSL also said that, for her own sake, a mental connection would be necessary for a future FMF. It's nice to know that others feel so strongly about it that they actually made it a rule! - Mr. WTSL