[WesternSwing]

deadparrot911, you bring up an interesting point. The level of intamacy outside of sex is different for everybody. For us, our litmus test for having sex with you is we ask ourselves "if sex was not in the picture would we still be friends with these people/this person?" If the answer is yes then we're on for sex. If it is no, then it won't happen.

Because of this many of our playmates have also become good friends. Friends that we do stuff with outside of the lifestyle, too. We still seperate love and sex very well. Like you said, there is only one person that gets the whole package of love/sex/friendship, and that is us. Other's may get friendship or sex and friendship, but they will never get love. Maybe in this we are partially polyamorous. Hmmm. Many of our new friends we've met in the lifestyle are truly poly, but we haven't played with them for that reason, they are looking for something more than just a casual sexual relationship. But, we have so many other things in common that we have become good friends. In fact, I could call them "our tribe".

So there it is. Yes, we develop friendships with most we swing with, and we would go to hell and back for a couple of them, but not all. Just like in vanilla life I think there are different levels of friendship for us.

Mr. WS