[intuition897]

There are friends and then there are friends. While we can differentiate between love and sex, for us it would be highly unusual to have sex with people we didn't like. If all we were after was a simple orgasm, hell, that's what sex toys are for. But I think most would agree that personality plays a part in attraction. For us, a major part. It has nothing to do with whether or not they would make good life-mate material, and I could care less about someone schmoozing me with flowers and candy... But I can't help but be turned off by huge egos and the constant preening that goes with it, mean-spiritedness, lying, cheating, or just blain classless personalities. Life is just too short to voluntarily spend even one evening in the company of people whose company you don't enjoy. And I don't care if they look like supermodels.

Having sex with people you don't "click" with, just because they're physically attractive, doesn't feel right to us. It sort of feels like we're A) wasting time that we could be spending actually enjoying another couple's company, and B) a bit like we're using these other people, jerks though they may be. We don't like to feel like we've been used, so we're uncomfortable doing it to anyone else.