The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Am I alone in thinking that "friends first" doesn't make sense?

**good times** · 01-04-2006, 01:45 PM

I agree with Jenn, everybody is different. In our case we have sex with more people that we like for sex than we do with people we consider real friends. And while I would say we love our friends it is a totally different thing than the love we have for each other. We have found that it is pretty rare to become real good friends with the people we play with and in actively swinging for over 3 years have only met a few people through swinging that we would consider true friends. So, for us, if it was required that we be friends first we probably wouldn't be swinging as their are a lot of people we find sexually stimulating and fun to play with but don't have enough in common with to be friends beyond that. On the other hand, if we make the kind of friends that we enjoy outside the lifestyle and also enjoy playing with, that is fine with us too.

In reference to the quote of Uomo that you cite though, if we meet someone and just don't like them or mesh personality wise we won't be having sex with them. So I would say that it is true that I would have to like the person to have sex with them, that doesn't mean we are going to be best of friends though.

01-04-2006, 01:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,460 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Am I alone in this? I agree with Jenn, everybody is different. In our case we have sex with more people that we like for sex than we do with people we consider real friends. And while I would say we love our friends it is a totally different thing than the love we have for each other. We have found that it is pretty rare to become real good friends with the people we play with and in actively swinging for over 3 years have only met a few people through swinging that we would consider true friends. So, for us, if it was required that we be friends first we probably wouldn't be swinging as their are a lot of people we find sexually stimulating and fun to play with but don't have enough in common with to be friends beyond that. On the other hand, if we make the kind of friends that we enjoy outside the lifestyle and also enjoy playing with, that is fine with us too. In reference to the quote of Uomo that you cite though, if we meet someone and just don't like them or mesh personality wise we won't be having sex with them. So I would say that it is true that I would have to like the person to have sex with them, that doesn't mean we are going to be best of friends though. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)