The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Am I alone in thinking that "friends first" doesn't make sense?

dragonblade · 01-04-2006, 01:31 PM

I don't think you are, as I said in my reply to Uomo, there are definitely those who want one night stands, or even repeat performances, but don't want the hassle or attachment that goes along with truly being friends with someone you swing with.

I personally look for friends because we tried that basic, random, get to "know" someone thru the internet and phone and meet up to possibly hookup, and we had a bad experience. Of course I realize that it was the people we were with and the actions that ensued, not that portion of swinging in and of itself, but we feel more comfortable being friends with whom we swing with. For instance, my hubby's best friend of 9 years is our #1 swing partner, and we're looking to hookup with a female friend of mine of the last 2 years that happens to be that "elusive single bi-female"

there's a different friend possibly in the mix, but we won't get into that right now

Anyway, like what has been said in the past "different strokes for different folks".

I think the portion of what he learned was that someone wants to know that they have more than just a body, that we do in fact enjoy the conversation, the dancing, or the hanging around rather than some random guy coming up and being like "Hi my name is Joe-Bob and I want to screw you like pigs in muck in the summertime!" :rollseyes: We do in fact want to be seen as real people, not just hedonistic sex toys without feelings right? But for most people with the majority of their swing partners (from what I've seen and read) have the same or mostly the same attitude as you do. Acquaintences with Benefits. facelick

But hey, I'm still fairly new to this wonderful world of swinging so this is just IMHO Surrender

~~Blade~~

01-04-2006, 01:31 PM	#3 (permalink)
dragonblade Swinger lickin good... Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 134 Location: Connecticut Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Dragonblade81	Re: Am I alone in this? I don't think you are, as I said in my reply to Uomo, there are definitely those who want one night stands, or even repeat performances, but don't want the hassle or attachment that goes along with truly being friends with someone you swing with. I personally look for friends because we tried that basic, random, get to "know" someone thru the internet and phone and meet up to possibly hookup, and we had a bad experience. Of course I realize that it was the people we were with and the actions that ensued, not that portion of swinging in and of itself, but we feel more comfortable being friends with whom we swing with. For instance, my hubby's best friend of 9 years is our #1 swing partner, and we're looking to hookup with a female friend of mine of the last 2 years that happens to be that "elusive single bi-female" there's a different friend possibly in the mix, but we won't get into that right now Anyway, like what has been said in the past "different strokes for different folks". I think the portion of what he learned was that someone wants to know that they have more than just a body, that we do in fact enjoy the conversation, the dancing, or the hanging around rather than some random guy coming up and being like "Hi my name is Joe-Bob and I want to screw you like pigs in muck in the summertime!" :rollseyes: We do in fact want to be seen as real people, not just hedonistic sex toys without feelings right? But for most people with the majority of their swing partners (from what I've seen and read) have the same or mostly the same attitude as you do. Acquaintences with Benefits. facelick But hey, I'm still fairly new to this wonderful world of swinging so this is just IMHO Surrender ~~Blade~~ __________________ It is with our passions, as it is with fire and water, they are good servants but bad masters. ~ Aesop (620 BC - 560 BC)