I have to agree with Lori here.
As a BBW, it does bother me to see so many HWP ads out there. But, I console myself with the thought that they are not the kind of people I'd like to get to know anyway. While I agree that we are in the lifestyle for the sex, as well as the new friends, we try not to judge based solely on appearances, and expect the same from those we meet.
Here's an example:
R and I met this one single man at a club. He was really nice, and fun to talk to, but kept ogling all the barbies at the club, making it clear he was not interested in me sexually.
This did not really bother me, as I was having a good time talking to everyone. Then, someone said something that made me laugh. I smiled at R and this guy, just a happy smile. And this guy's face lit up.
After that, he couldn't stay away from me. Post-coitus, I asked him about his earlier attitude. He said that usually he was not attracted to BBWs, but that he really liked my smile and my attitude, and that made me so much more attractive to him.
Do you see what I am getting at here? I realize that physical attraction has to be present in order to have a sexual relationship. However, there is so much more to it than that.
(And don't think that he was with me because he was desperate. He wasn't - he was VERY attractive, and had several women hanging all over him.)
K
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