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Old 01-03-2006, 07:56 PM   #2 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey
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Default Re: Sex without a connection- a learning experience

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Originally Posted by NandTfromCA
So, we now have rule #3- Just because we horny, and a relatively attractive couple is ready to go, doesn’t mean we are going to play with them. There has to be some sort of mental connection. T (XY)
Been there and done that. We chalked it up as a lesson learned. What we would run into is we'd be attracted physically and maybe one of us was connecting with the other soon to be playmate mentally so we'd give it a go. We'd tell ourselves "oh, he/she is just quiet", but then even into the play there would still be no connection. So our new rule is: there has to be a connection for both of us over and above the physical attraction. Even if I hit it off with the husband or Spoo hits it off with the wife if that isn't happening for both of us we're not going to play.

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