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It really bothers me when people put HWP in their profiles, as to me it shows they are shallow.
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1. So what you all are saying is people whose preferences are to play with HWP's are shallow and those who don't care aren't shallow?
2. How is it that your criteria ie personality is less shallow ie better on some cosmic scale than those people who like HWP's?
3. Why are you concerned about other peoples criteria?
4. Why do you care if they are "shallow"?
We've meet plenty of attractive couples who aren't in the
"absolutely no clue to the time of day and you'ld have thought if they smiled they would crack their makeup." camp.
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Many come into the lifestyle looking for the "perfect" body first, thinking that swinging means nothing but picking up some free *SEX*
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It seems that for you swinging isn't about sex. That's fine. For other people it is about sex. That's fine too. If one doesn't want to play with those people don't. I'm just not sure why those people are shalllow and you're not. I though that the point of swinging was to be able to have sex with people that society says you're not supposed to have sex with. If swinging isn't about sex than why do swingers have sex? Why not just enjoy their personalities?
We have lots of friends that aren't in the lifestyle and we don't have sex with them. Some of them we're not sexually attracted to physically or emotionally. Some of them we are attracted to. Either way they are still friends. What differentiates our non-Lifestyle friends from our swinging friends is sex. We have sex with our swinging friends. We don't with our non-swinging friends even if we are attracted to them.
People are people. They come in all shapes and sizes, all kinds of personalities. There is somebody for everyone.
Why let someone else's idea of the "perfect" person concern you or the board?
What is it you're trying to accomplish with your posts about this topic?
I certainly don't think you're going to change their minds. Only time and experience (as with your own criteria
"Over the last year we have taken age to the bottom of the pole" ) will do that if it will be done at all. The HWPer's may find that that criteria works just fine for them "Thank you" and never change. Will they miss some good times(SEX)? Maybe but if they're happy with the results what different does it make to you?
Maybe a "Live and let Live" philosophy would reduce your "abject frustration". It seems to us that there are enough people in the world trying to tell other people how to live their lives (for instance, alQuaida to chose an extreme example!).
So take this post as food for thought. Far be it for me to tell yall how to live your swinging lives but I think you're beating a dead horse, barking up the wrong tree and preaching to the choir!