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Originally posted by CanadianCouple
This is a subject discussed here previously, but at the risk of sounding redundant... |
CanadianCouple,
I do not find this topic redundant at all. I acutally find it very appropriate. I do remember the thread you were talking about and from just that short period of time (roughly 8 months or so ago) some of our own opinions have changed. I actually thank you for bringing it up so I can vent a little on my own.
This is only based on my personal opinion after a year of watching people come and go and how they first start out in their search for *swinging* both on this board and pay sites.
Many come into the lifestyle looking for the "perfect" body first, thinking that swinging means nothing but picking up some free *SEX* Age generally takes the next preference, with a lot of other nit picky things following it and then at the very bottom of the totem pole are personalities.
We were a little backwards in our preferences as age came first and then personality, with HWP at the bottom of the totem pole. Over the last year we have taken age to the bottom of the pole, thanks to some pretty cool people we have met and corresponded with that convinced me (as this was my problem and not Gene's) that age has no bearing on like minded people if you get along in the most important way.
Our highest priority now is personality. We have met some killer couples (body, facial wise) that had absolutely no clue to the time of day and you'ld have thought if they smiled they would crack their makeup. They were eager to play and we were not. There was no *connection* intellectually.
It really bothers me when people put HWP in their profiles, as to me it shows they are shallow. I was shallow on the age thing, but that has changed now. Considering that I married a man 15 years my senior, one wouldn't think age would be an issue to me, but it was. Not only is HWP subjective, it pays no attention to the individual inside the package.
Let me meet someone who has the kindness, intellect and ability to make me feel comfortable and I can relate to, who may have not enough or a little extra pounds or maybe some surgical scars...whatever, I'll take that any day of over someone whom I can't hold a meaningful conversation with, HWP or not.
Lori