The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Difficulties of being a single male and wanting to swing

Spoomonkey · 01-01-2006, 11:02 AM

I am tired and I skimmed...

I'll admit it...

But, I was talking to a single guy friend the other day and we were discussing this very thing. My take - as a married swinger is this:

If I were single, I WOULDN'T be looking for a woman who wants to swing - and I wouldn't make it condition to my falling in love. The reason for this is simple (to me, at least).

It takes trust, communication and an almost unnatural intimacy to be a successful couple in swinging. Those things - I think - have to come first. A couple needs to have trust in each other, respect for each other, an intimacy with each other - that simply finding a "swing partner" is unlikely to include.

I am sure many marriages have started - and grown very deep - when swinging was the priority. But, I think the odds favor a marriage where the priorities are in the right order.

Mrs Spoomonkey wasn't looking to swing when we fell in love. Neither was I. It was something that grew out of "US". Our relationship made it possible.

And to be honest - I could not be happier married to anyone else. I'd gladly give up swinging for Mrs Spoo. I wouldn't trade her for a swinging model. Monogamy with her would be far better than swinging with anyone else.

Spoomonkey

01-01-2006, 11:02 AM	#6 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Thoughts to share with everyone...... I am tired and I skimmed... I'll admit it... But, I was talking to a single guy friend the other day and we were discussing this very thing. My take - as a married swinger is this: If I were single, I WOULDN'T be looking for a woman who wants to swing - and I wouldn't make it condition to my falling in love. The reason for this is simple (to me, at least). It takes trust, communication and an almost unnatural intimacy to be a successful couple in swinging. Those things - I think - have to come first. A couple needs to have trust in each other, respect for each other, an intimacy with each other - that simply finding a "swing partner" is unlikely to include. I am sure many marriages have started - and grown very deep - when swinging was the priority. But, I think the odds favor a marriage where the priorities are in the right order. Mrs Spoomonkey wasn't looking to swing when we fell in love. Neither was I. It was something that grew out of "US". Our relationship made it possible. And to be honest - I could not be happier married to anyone else. I'd gladly give up swinging for Mrs Spoo. I wouldn't trade her for a swinging model. Monogamy with her would be far better than swinging with anyone else. Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis Last edited by Spoomonkey : 01-01-2006 at 04:20 PM.