Since I found this wonderful, yet friendly forum, I have not been about to stop reading. It is quite educational, yet entertaining. So, as I am sitting here to burn off the rest few office hours, I like to share some of my thoughts with everyone here, well, for whatever it worth……..
As a single male, the first question from others, especially from lifestyle community, is often associated with “Why he is still single?”. Whether it is a direct question, or a thought in mind of other swinger(s), it immediately puts any single male in a negative territory. I can not answer this question for all the single males in (or want to be in) the lifestyle community, but I like to answer this question openly here to everyone(male, female and couples).
I don’t think that I am choosing to be a single male to the community. For the same reason, I like to be in a good relationship with someone has the same open mind and share the life together. But, in today’s society, openly to seeking a lifetime partner outside the lifestyle community is nearly impossible. Like someone who posted in another topic, as mess majority public seeing “swingers” were “immoral”, “indecency”, and full of “bad influence” to others. But, I don’t think so. As I view the lifestyle is no difference than someone who likes particular sports and incorporates their daily life around it. But unfortunately, you will be very hard to convince others that way. Just imaging, you have a lifetime partner who does not involved with golf game, nor swing community. He(or she) will have no problem to let you have a golf buddy, but will have a HUGE problem if you have a swing partner, why? The public perception!
I had been in a relationship for several years and had great times with a very respectful lady. The lifestyle was the major problem as we continued share our thoughts. Even, I could convince her, there would still be the concerning from her friends and family. At the end, we decided to keep the relationship just as a friend to each other. Because I didn’t think it would be fair to her to stay in a relationship and accept anything that she and her family/friends had tough time to accept. That is why I concluded it will be a bad idea to develop any relationship before you know if other has alike open mind.
I visited many boards and personal web sites. But, most of those places are so commercialized with many Ads only to attract individual looking for so call “no string attached sex”. Not only those did not help our “single males” reputation, but most of those place and posts showing no respect to anyone no matter if you are viewer(s) or writer(s) which further mis-leading the public about lifestyle community. This is the first time that I found a place that is really friendly and open minded individuals who has shown each other their sincerity, and willing to share their true feelings and thoughts.
So, hopefully, like many sincere single males, through out this venture, I will be able to find a lifetime long partner to share the lifetime excitement. More so, I sincerely hope through those posts, many single females with alike open mind will find the true side of many single males (especially those of near by my area
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