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Originally Posted by DBL D but why go through the hoops for the same result and possibly hurt someones feelings in the meantime? |
I have to agree with this.
I have a wide strike zone... But I also have my limits - just like Bear isn't into 98 pound women. Is he going to be into her any more because she put a "0" in her profile? Likely - but only until he sees her and realizes what could have been clarified in the first place.
It is one of the reasons that some couples will only look at profiles with pictures. No pics? We assume the worst.
It isn't always fair, but it does fall within the law of averages.
If I see "0" on a profile, I won't assume 98... I am more likely to assume something nearer the other side of the spectrum. And I would hesitate to contact her. And this proves my point. Putting "0" means she is less likely to get contacts from guys who might very well find her attractive.
The same is true for women who struggle with a few extra pounds. Women are their own worst critics - and what they are ashamed of, others are probably attracted to.
My point in starting the thread is just to say "it is you - why be ashamed of it?" After all - what you really want to find is people with whom you share a mutual attraction, rather than wade through PMs from people who are eventually going to be turned off - and then are going to be in the very "unfun" position of having to either beg off creatively or be hurtfully honest.
Spoomonkey