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Originally Posted by BradAndJanet You know, it occurs to me that the sites could do things differently and not ask for a number at all. How about a scale from 'Blows away in a strong wind' to 'Big, Beautiful and proud of it!', with everything in between? You could have your dreaded 'HWP' but also things like 'Could stand to lose a little weight' or 'Big boned' or 'Needs a sammich'. Everybody'd get the picture and people wouldn't have to lie as much. 
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I've seen sites that do something similar. AFF does, for example. It doesn't make a difference, people lie anyway.
My personal take on it:
If you list "0" or some equivalent (like "Not saying") and have no clear, recent, full-body type of picture on your profile, you're probably hiding something. Really doesn't matter if you're male or female. One of the things I personally believe about swinging, regardless of whether you're single, "attached" or married is that it's counterproductive not to be honest about one's weight as well as many, many other things. First, it's dishonest. Second, swinging is--in large part--about attraction; does anyone
really think that they're just so damn sexy and personable that when you finally meet, the other person is gonna simply overlook the fact that your personal ad was flagrantly misleading?
I have swung with--and do swing with--people of a wide variety of body types. I'm far more interested in what someone is like as a whole than just how they look. Nonetheless, there are people who are, to me, simply unattractive, for lots of reasons that are often very difficult to describe and many times have nothing to do with weight.
I've no experience with how much/how often guys deliberately mislead in their profiles, so I'm not trying to say here that only women do it. I do know, (from unpleasant experience) however, that almost always when a woman is deliberately misleading in her profile as regards her weight, it's virtually certain to be because she's
seriously overweight; and I'm not talking just 20 or 30 pounds. Kind of a shame, really, because, as I mentioned, I am willing to swing with folks of all sorts of sizes--providing I know up-front. I suspect there are other folks that are similar: they just want to know who they are dealing with first, so they feel like they're making an informed decision.