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Orion78 · 12-23-2005, 02:51 PM

Andy100 - thank you for the advice. Very simple and practical. I'm not married, so cheating on the wife is not my goal. I find the concept of this community amazing and refreshing... the openness of meeting people and having incredible experiences with them, developing fun relationships and keeping it moving. I also appreciate how many of you are of the same mind in the way of respect for the relationships or episodes you share. I find it very refreshing that most of the couples are very much happy and in love with one another and by being a part of this lifestyle, are just expanding and enhancing their love! So, with that understanding, yes, I am prepared to work to become a part of this community and build friendships with couples. Thanks again for your advice.

SpooMonkey - You appear very well grounded. I appreciated every word of your commentary because it forced me to evaluate myself and weigh myself against what appears to be the general expectation of a single guy in this community. I also VERY MUCH appreciated the link you provided to your experience with the "bad apple". Let me just say that I am sorry that you had that experience, but kudos to you and your wife for the way you 2 handled it. It is truly a testament to the relationship that you have and the MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING you share. It is THAT understanding that attracts me to this community and lifestyle. I think it is the perception of many that people who choose this lifestyle are unhappy in their marriages and relationships and are looking to get into something else. But your experience is a demonstration of the opposite. You 2 truly love one another and I can see from the comments of others in that "one bad apple" thread that this is the general metality of couples in this community. I very much appreciate and respect that and, as a result, am even more drawn to this community and lifestyle.

For the record I am far from "that guy" who is looking to break down or subvert anyones relationship. I am only looking to do what it appears everyone in this community is attempting to do: enhance the human experience by expressing your truest desires and fantasies with people of like minds and not feeling ashamed or bad for having those feelings. Instead feeling at peace for having them and happy to be able to express them and carry them out!

Thanks again for both your comments. I welcome more please!

12-23-2005, 02:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
Orion78 Registered Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 4 Location: New York Status: Single Male	Re: Observations and questions of a NEWBIE to all of this... Andy100 - thank you for the advice. Very simple and practical. I'm not married, so cheating on the wife is not my goal. I find the concept of this community amazing and refreshing... the openness of meeting people and having incredible experiences with them, developing fun relationships and keeping it moving. I also appreciate how many of you are of the same mind in the way of respect for the relationships or episodes you share. I find it very refreshing that most of the couples are very much happy and in love with one another and by being a part of this lifestyle, are just expanding and enhancing their love! So, with that understanding, yes, I am prepared to work to become a part of this community and build friendships with couples. Thanks again for your advice. SpooMonkey - You appear very well grounded. I appreciated every word of your commentary because it forced me to evaluate myself and weigh myself against what appears to be the general expectation of a single guy in this community. I also VERY MUCH appreciated the link you provided to your experience with the "bad apple". Let me just say that I am sorry that you had that experience, but kudos to you and your wife for the way you 2 handled it. It is truly a testament to the relationship that you have and the MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING you share. It is THAT understanding that attracts me to this community and lifestyle. I think it is the perception of many that people who choose this lifestyle are unhappy in their marriages and relationships and are looking to get into something else. But your experience is a demonstration of the opposite. You 2 truly love one another and I can see from the comments of others in that "one bad apple" thread that this is the general metality of couples in this community. I very much appreciate and respect that and, as a result, am even more drawn to this community and lifestyle. For the record I am far from "that guy" who is looking to break down or subvert anyones relationship. I am only looking to do what it appears everyone in this community is attempting to do: enhance the human experience by expressing your truest desires and fantasies with people of like minds and not feeling ashamed or bad for having those feelings. Instead feeling at peace for having them and happy to be able to express them and carry them out! Thanks again for both your comments. I welcome more please! Last edited by Orion78 : 12-23-2005 at 02:55 PM.