Ok…we gave some detail about our first experience, partly because it was so surreal and partly because we felt like we had to pay-forward the postings that we read when we were thinking about swinging. Even still, since it was so detailed, it felt a little “kiss and tell” (probably because it was). No big deal, no names given, we’ll just be limiting the play-by-plays in the future.
Anyhow, leaving out the details, we just full swapped with the couple we had our first experience with. Again, totally freaking wonderful. N (wife) loved it, I loved it, and I’m pretty sure they did too.
It feels so natural, just as if we had some friends over and then went to have sex, just N and I. There are only good feelings about it…zero jealousy. Especially considering that we were eachothers only sexual partners (before this experience), we expected at least a little awkwardness or uncertainty along with the excitement.
The only rules we have set are 1. “no” means “NO” and 2. Check in before escalating to unknown waters (if we keep up at this rate, we will have charted all the waters before too long
) we just kept checking in with each other (visually and verbally). Since all 4 of us were in the same hot tub and then on the same bed, it was pretty easy.
Here’s the questions:
1- Is it rare to be so cool with the whole deal on the first try? I’m just wondering if there is going to be any delayed reaction and if it can always be that good if we play our cards right.
2- Are we asking for trouble with only having those two rules? We’re figuring the constant communication supercedes any rules that we could have.
I may have already said this, but I have to compliment them again- I consider us very lucky to have hooked up with such a cool couple right away. Great fun- clothes on and clothes off.
T