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Originally Posted by Orion78 1. Why does it appear that single males are not really encouraged to be a part of this community? |
I think what you'll find is that you are not battling couples so much as you are battling other single men. Some folks here claim they have never had an issue with a single. They are pretty much the exception.
I think the majority of couples in the lifestyle have at least one tale of the bone head who almost ruined it for everyone.
Our experience has been that most single men are decent guys - some are more "polished" than others and truely understand what swinging is - and sincerely respect the couples they swing with. Most others are probably just as decent, but lack the "polish"... Nice guys, but probably not quite grasping things...
Then - of course - you get the rare jack ass who sees things completely backwards, has no respect for the husband, the wife, the marriage, etc. This guy has turned a lot of couples off to singles. We met
him once and he nearly knocked us off of single guys for good. But we have since met a guy on the opposite end of the spectrum.
So - keep in mind - your struggle isn't against couples. It is against "that guy". Unless you are "that guy" - in which case, your struggle will be against yourself.
The fact that you are asking this question and the content of your post leads me to believe that you are not "that guy" - and that is a good thing.
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Originally Posted by Orion78 2. Is it possible for single males to be a part of this great community? If so, how do you recommend I go about establishing myself? |
Be real - be honest - be sincere - be involved. Share, ask questions, just "shoot the shit." As a couple who does enjoy good single guys when they come along, we aren't looking for guys with the biggest equipment, or those self-proclaimed (and they all seem to be so self-proclaimed) "masters of oral sex". We're just looking for guys that we can both feel a comfort level with.
Single guys are a dime a dozen...
GOOD single guys are as rare as single women...
Spoomonkey