[Andy100]

Originally Posted by chattyroni

I believe that women are programmed by society and religion to believe that they are not supposed to enjoy or even be interested in sex, except of course with their husband. Women face many conflicts. Women must be hot and sexy for their husbands, but not too hot and sexy or they'll be called a slut (and not in an endearing way). Women's body's are designed to enjoy sex, but we all know that only "bad girls" like sex, so we repress our natural instincts. Repression causes internal conflict. This is ingrained so strongly that we cannot even admit to ourselves that we could ever be attracted to any man other than our husband. I am an extremely sexual person, and have been for as long as I can remember. However, once I met my husband all of my sexuality became focussed on him, and I truly believed that I was not attracted in the least to any other man. So when my husband first mentioned swinging, I was appalled. After all, good girls, (the kind guys like to marry) don't do that sort of thing. And even though we had already been married for 15 years at the time, I still could not bring myself to do anything that I believed would threaten the status of my marriage. Fortunately we were able to discuss my feelings about this, because as my husband researched the lifestyle, he would tell me what he was learning and even read excerpts from the books to me. He never pushed, he just shared. It was during this open communication that I finally truly felt the meaning of life partner, and was able to realize that this lifestyle would not threaten my marriage, because my marriage was so much more than sex. We discussed the double standards too. My husband made me realize that it was actually natural for me to be sexual, and to want to be with other men. Even though he was not the one repressing me, he was the one to help release me from my repression and allow me to express my sexuality. Every woman should receive this gift. There are so many women out there that I would like to help de-program! My long winded 2 cents, Roni

Roni

Thankyou that was very well explained