[LikeMinds321]

Everyone has given you much to think about already, so I'll try not to repeat and instead add some other thoughts that have come to mind.

You didn't mention if you told your wife about the nanny approaching you while she was out of the house. Have you told your wife?

Knowing where my naive, romantic head was at 21 years old, and from what you have described, this nanny is probably living in a glorious fantasy world right now. She's consumed by visions of you two. She's playing a movie in her mind: "How Mr Nice Boss fell in Love with Me." Even though this all started with the discussion of swinging, she likely has no real idea of what swinging is. For her an involvement with you would not be just sex.

I don't think you can ignore what has transpired in hopes it will go away. I would let the nanny know that you were all just talking freely and that's all it was. Keep it simple and to the point. AND, make sure you and your wife are standing together as a team communicating this message to her, so the nanny knows you have kept no secrets from your wife. I think this is a crucial tactic to break the spell of fantasy that this young girl is living right now.

She's probably hoping there is something special developing between you and her, and that you secretly want her as much as she wants you. (I don't think she would have approached you privately if she didn't want you BAD.) She's probably hoping you are willing to start having sex with her behind your wife's back.

LM