[Chicup]

When a swinging couple brings up swinging in general to another person/couple most people don't think its because they want to talk about the lifestyle in general but are indirectly inviting them to join them.

Now maybe this isn't really true, but to someone not involved I can't blame them for thinking this, so the fact that you even casually brought it up with B is just a step from saying 'hey would you like to have sex with us' in her mind. We see posts like this on the board not infrequently.

The fact she brought it up with you means she THINKS it was an invitation. Also it means she is shy/nervous about the bi thing and doesn't want you or your wife to get the wrong idea. There is a big leap from bi-curious to bi, and she might be afraid you guys want her to take the plunge when she is not yet ready.

So while my first reaction was RUN, RUN AWAY, the more I think about it, the more I'm not so sure. You really opened up to this woman, and she in turned opened up to you. When she is still open you were closed and recoiled in fear. I can tell you most couples we are with the woman wants me more than my wife, its pretty normal for a full swap couple so why would your nanny be any different?

You did in fact create this situation, but I wouldn't be thinking of firing her at this point.

As for the employee, employer situation, yea you fucked up big time. Back when I started on my career path, and older owner told me the advice HE got back when he started, which was 'Never screw the help!'. Just because it was casual to you, it amazing how a lawyer can twist the truth, and if she can 'prove' you are swingers you might as well start writing the check now, so don't let it get to that stage.