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Originally Posted by swing52001 You mentioned your close vanilla lady friend who has been naked in the tub with you. I admire your self control and restraint. It that were to happen with me, I'd have a raging erection before you could blink. Then I'd be soooo embarrassed.  |
My wife and I have done the nudist thing, so to us it is no different then something like that. Just because they are comfortable enough to be naked around us doesn't imply sex. Besides there is another point at play here, one that is big with me. The friendship is more important to me then sex. Why risk a lifetime of friendship for a night of sex. After all in this day and age there are more opportunities for sex then there are for truly great friends so it is a matter of keeping priorities straight.
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Originally Posted by swing52001 I wonder if spontaneity can be planned. If a couple is of the same mind, but wishes not to engage in planned sex with others, rather to enjoy social interaction with others who may or may not become friends and/or playmates, would it be possible and/or probable to have the ground rules and communication guidlines planned should a favourable opportunity arise? Yikes, since it took that long to say it, it might be a lot of work. Might be worth it tho.
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Planned spontaneity
....hum I find the idea humorous but I think I know where you are going with it. And I would have to answer Yes to your question for the simple reason that is how my wife and I are. We don't belong to any sites or reguarly attend swing clubs. We have a clear idea of what we want as a couple and if we find ourselves in such a situation we already have a set of rules about what is and isn't acceptable. So to be honest we probably play a lot less then the average couple, but when we do it is a lot of fun.