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carolinaskye · 12-18-2005, 08:30 PM

Oops...didnt mean to post the above just yet...I too agree....that was sweetly and sensitively worded curiousagain. I very much think depression..oppression..and stress can cause people to unwittingly pack on the pounds...and as the weight rises....the self esteem plumets..its a very vicious cycle. I am so saddened by your caustic remarks over your wife's weight..I see that you say you love her..but somehow hearing you refer to her as a fat chick doesnt sound so loving...rather than deciding you need to find thinner women to have sex with..why not try to help her figure out what is behind this.....physical or emotional..thats what a partnership is all about, pal! I am still a newbie here and not really active in the lifestyle at this point but what impresses me with this group is the genuine love and respect between these couples. Somehow I dont think very many would want to play with you guys..NOT because of your wife's weight any more than because of your attitude towards her,,,,,its NEVER any fun to hang out with a couple in relationship trouble. And something too you might want to keep in mind..the weight can come off....go away...but hurt feelings and broken hearts are not as easily reduced..resentment can linger and shatter a marriage. I am sure others besides myself have seen wives lose a large amount of weight...regain self esteem..and walk right out that door. Something that you might want to spend a little more time thinking about instead of swinging right now..I do truly wish you and your wife the best of luck..and hope you both rediscover that which brought you together in the first place..love and passion.

12-18-2005, 08:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
carolinaskye Active Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 21 Location: mississippi Status: single female Swing Lifestyle Name:carolinaskye	Re: Opposite body types Oops...didnt mean to post the above just yet...I too agree....that was sweetly and sensitively worded curiousagain. I very much think depression..oppression..and stress can cause people to unwittingly pack on the pounds...and as the weight rises....the self esteem plumets..its a very vicious cycle. I am so saddened by your caustic remarks over your wife's weight..I see that you say you love her..but somehow hearing you refer to her as a fat chick doesnt sound so loving...rather than deciding you need to find thinner women to have sex with..why not try to help her figure out what is behind this.....physical or emotional..thats what a partnership is all about, pal! I am still a newbie here and not really active in the lifestyle at this point but what impresses me with this group is the genuine love and respect between these couples. Somehow I dont think very many would want to play with you guys..NOT because of your wife's weight any more than because of your attitude towards her,,,,,its NEVER any fun to hang out with a couple in relationship trouble. And something too you might want to keep in mind..the weight can come off....go away...but hurt feelings and broken hearts are not as easily reduced..resentment can linger and shatter a marriage. I am sure others besides myself have seen wives lose a large amount of weight...regain self esteem..and walk right out that door. Something that you might want to spend a little more time thinking about instead of swinging right now..I do truly wish you and your wife the best of luck..and hope you both rediscover that which brought you together in the first place..love and passion.