[EvilMJ]

I couldn't have put it any better than Curiousagain. Wonderfully put.

As as woman who definately has a struggle with weight I know how hard it can be. There is nothing more demoralizing then eating your veggies and watching some size 3 munching chips and never gaining weight. It plays with your self estime and takes a toll on your marriage. It certainly is not going to improve things by calling the person you love Fat Chick!!

When I was feeling low and had gained a bunch of weight from being a stay at home mom for that first year my hubby suggested we buy the neighbour's treadmill. Not becuase he felt I needed to lose weight, but becuase he could see how miserable I was. He was more concerned about my emotional well being then my physical. That's where you have to start.

Be supportive, talk to her. There could be more going on in her mind then you will ever imagine. And don't kid yourself , losing weight is a very hard thing to do, more so for women then men, it is a long road and as Curiousagain pointed out there are no quick fixes.