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curiousagain · 12-18-2005, 07:20 PM

About 1% of people have a genetic, neurological, or "glandular" problem causing obesity. Since there are way more than 1% of people in the USA with obesity problems, then you have to look at other reasons. These reasons are almost always “fixable”.

Fortunately for me, I am mesomorphic which in part means I can accumulate or lose mass very quickly. Unfortunately for me, I am a stress eater. When under a lot of stress, I find comfort in food which most of the time is better than finding comfort in alcohol and drugs, but in the long run can be just as deadly.

People gain weight for different reasons. Sure, it is basically because they are putting more calories in than expending. But, what I am getting at is, does she eat more and why? Does she have a less active lifestyle and if so why? My Daughter gained a bunch of weight after she became a stay at home Mom. She finally figured out it was because she was always cooking and tasting and eating with the kids and instead of being on the go in her old job was staying indoors. She bought a treadmill and started tracking her calories in a daily notebook and in about 8 months she took the 60 lbs off. In a little over 2 years I have lost 70+lbs of fat and gained 40+ lbs of muscle. Notice neither one of these is a “quick success story”. I had gained my weight from stress eating and inactivity related to a couple of back injuries.

You love your wife but are no longer physically attracted to her due to her weight. This doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. What it does mean is your wife has a health problem that is affecting both of you and your relationship. I think your time is much better spent trying to help her vs trying to find someone to swing with.

Her weight gain is a major, major health problem in addition to the problems it is causing in your relationship. If she were alcoholic, wouldn’t you want to help her get on the wagon?

But, like a lot of other things, you can only help her, you can’t do it for her and success won’t happen overnight. And, it may be caused by something that can’t be fixed “right now” . A word up though, when you get to exploring the causes, it may be your relationship or the state of it, or her perception of these things.

12-18-2005, 07:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,131 Location: Southeastern USA Status: half of a couple	Re: Opposite body types About 1% of people have a genetic, neurological, or "glandular" problem causing obesity. Since there are way more than 1% of people in the USA with obesity problems, then you have to look at other reasons. These reasons are almost always “fixable”. Fortunately for me, I am mesomorphic which in part means I can accumulate or lose mass very quickly. Unfortunately for me, I am a stress eater. When under a lot of stress, I find comfort in food which most of the time is better than finding comfort in alcohol and drugs, but in the long run can be just as deadly. People gain weight for different reasons. Sure, it is basically because they are putting more calories in than expending. But, what I am getting at is, does she eat more and why? Does she have a less active lifestyle and if so why? My Daughter gained a bunch of weight after she became a stay at home Mom. She finally figured out it was because she was always cooking and tasting and eating with the kids and instead of being on the go in her old job was staying indoors. She bought a treadmill and started tracking her calories in a daily notebook and in about 8 months she took the 60 lbs off. In a little over 2 years I have lost 70+lbs of fat and gained 40+ lbs of muscle. Notice neither one of these is a “quick success story”. I had gained my weight from stress eating and inactivity related to a couple of back injuries. You love your wife but are no longer physically attracted to her due to her weight. This doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. What it does mean is your wife has a health problem that is affecting both of you and your relationship. I think your time is much better spent trying to help her vs trying to find someone to swing with. Her weight gain is a major, major health problem in addition to the problems it is causing in your relationship. If she were alcoholic, wouldn’t you want to help her get on the wagon? But, like a lot of other things, you can only help her, you can’t do it for her and success won’t happen overnight. And, it may be caused by something that can’t be fixed “right now” . A word up though, when you get to exploring the causes, it may be your relationship or the state of it, or her perception of these things.
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