Yes we discussed polyamory. I sent them both web sites and information about it, and we all talked about it more than once. It was never a confusion that she would be dating and pursuing her own family at some point soon... though we did joke that if she wasn't married at 36, maybe she could marry us???
It's not full poly in that we don't share an entire household and children... we are bound by love... she does, or did, spend the night 2-3 nights per week, every week, and helped me out at various times with the watching our son, and she always brought groceries (???... do groceries mean "polyamory"???... :rollseyes ) and she was even our child's godmother. She is the third primary adult in his LIFE. In fact... the first night we spent, emotions and excitement were aided by our discussion of polyamory relationships, possibilities for her new relationships, and the fact that we loved her and gave her godship that night. She in turn, did not want me or us to have sex with other women. I feel like I got taken on an emotional high, and now the responsibility is too much.
I *thought* I was clear when I said I loved this person, and that everyone believed me. Now even Husband somehow feels betrayed by my strong feelings for her... talk about being between a rock and a hard place...
It's been a really crappy week...
~T