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12-17-2005, 02:14 PM

I come to today to seek advice. Clearly I cannot seek such advice in any mainstream forum because this issue has much to do with this site. I would very much appreciate sincere replies from the heart and not any superficial male testosterone induced ego BS

I am a female 42 married to a very handsome 48-year-old man who is the joy in my life, a wonderful caring husband and awesome father of our two small children. My hubby who stands 6’6” with those broad shoulders and “Ken doll face” is the type that can turn the heads of even young attractive women when he is in the room. He is a very attentive lover and has always given me sexual pleasure beyond my wildest dreams.

So what’s the problem you ask? Well, for years we have fantasized about sharing each other with others. Last weekend I took him to a topless club to get him all aroused. I don’t do that often, It was a spur of the moment thing. We met a couple there that we bonded with and they talked us into checking out a swingers club where they had a membership. We looked at each other and winked and said why not? Lets go!!!

We have never been with anybody before. We have never been to a club like that before. It wasn’t a club actually, it was a large house. There were perhaps 100 or so people there mostly couples. The place had a dance floor, a movie room and other more secluded rooms where there was much activity.

We chatted and mingled and after a bit got really horny. When we decided to join in I was amazed at all the well-endowed men. My hubby is of average size and when it became apparent to him that he didn’t measure up ……well…..you know, he had some problems and felt intimidated. Clearly it was all in his head. There were a couple of women there that drooled over him and didn’t seem to mind that his erection was only 7’ long. When he noticed the other men there, he went limp and I could tell this wasn’t going to work.

He wouldn’t allow himself to have a good time and I picked up on that fact immediately and knew he was feeling uncomfortable. I took him aside and he said that he was indeed uncomfortable around so many large endowed men.

We left.

He doesn’t want to go back. He feels that he doesn’t measure up.

My god people, he is such an awesome lover. I don’t know what to do. I try to reassure him but he just doesn’t want to swing thinking that he will not be able to perform.

What can I do?

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Unregistered Guest Posts: n/a	Measure up? I come to today to seek advice. Clearly I cannot seek such advice in any mainstream forum because this issue has much to do with this site. I would very much appreciate sincere replies from the heart and not any superficial male testosterone induced ego BS I am a female 42 married to a very handsome 48-year-old man who is the joy in my life, a wonderful caring husband and awesome father of our two small children. My hubby who stands 6’6” with those broad shoulders and “Ken doll face” is the type that can turn the heads of even young attractive women when he is in the room. He is a very attentive lover and has always given me sexual pleasure beyond my wildest dreams. So what’s the problem you ask? Well, for years we have fantasized about sharing each other with others. Last weekend I took him to a topless club to get him all aroused. I don’t do that often, It was a spur of the moment thing. We met a couple there that we bonded with and they talked us into checking out a swingers club where they had a membership. We looked at each other and winked and said why not? Lets go!!! We have never been with anybody before. We have never been to a club like that before. It wasn’t a club actually, it was a large house. There were perhaps 100 or so people there mostly couples. The place had a dance floor, a movie room and other more secluded rooms where there was much activity. We chatted and mingled and after a bit got really horny. When we decided to join in I was amazed at all the well-endowed men. My hubby is of average size and when it became apparent to him that he didn’t measure up ……well…..you know, he had some problems and felt intimidated. Clearly it was all in his head. There were a couple of women there that drooled over him and didn’t seem to mind that his erection was only 7’ long. When he noticed the other men there, he went limp and I could tell this wasn’t going to work. He wouldn’t allow himself to have a good time and I picked up on that fact immediately and knew he was feeling uncomfortable. I took him aside and he said that he was indeed uncomfortable around so many large endowed men. We left. He doesn’t want to go back. He feels that he doesn’t measure up. My god people, he is such an awesome lover. I don’t know what to do. I try to reassure him but he just doesn’t want to swing thinking that he will not be able to perform. What can I do?
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