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Originally Posted by Tempest419 I guess what it comes down to, is that I expected the same attitude/communication when introducing a "new" partner into the three of us and was hurt when I didn't receive it. Which tells me it's not really a much of a committed, poly-type triad, and really I'm just swingin' with a bi-fem, which was not my intention or desire in being with her. If the emotions are irrelevant or "too much" coming from me, then it is obviously much deeper on my part than hers. |
Have you infact sat down with your spouse and your girlfriend and discussed the fact that you are wanting or "Think" your in a poly relationship? From what I have read you just assumed that you were.
Poly relationships, true poly relationships, are about much, much more than just a sexual relationship. They become committed relationships amoung three or more people. I know because I am in one. We have been together for approximately 9 months now. And we share everything.
When we first started seeing each other, Mr. & Mrs. Menage and myself, I was single and I was dating. Did I share every encounter/date with them? No. It wasn't really any of their business at the time. However, once the relationship became more serious and progressed dating and seeing others wasn't something I would have even seriously considered because my heart frankly would not have allowed me to.
So I have to seriously doubt that the relationship you think you have is anything close to a poly relationship and frankly based on the little information provided - your friend isn't obligated to tell you her every move.
The Other Menage_a_Trois