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Originally Posted by Lovinlife59912 When you say it was a mutual desire to swing, how did it come up in your conversation. Had either one of you been swinging before? |
Thanks for asking this.Boy! theres no easy way to answer it.
As i said ,this is our 2nd marriage.Prior to my 1st,I was 'playful',high spirited,promiscuous.I was seduced one evening into bed with two guys older and wiser than me.Until then I thought I knew what sex was like.Wow! on and off for 2 months,they kept 'seducing' me. Then they were gone. I settled down,1 year later fell in love,married,sex twice a day,then twice a week and then twice a month,not long before it was once a month and suspicion if I was late back from shopping.If I looked at a guy twice I was 'after' him,flirting.If I had two dances with a guy I was on with him.Masturbation was a disgusting aberation.....there was no point in telling him to watch me and you might change your mind.Unfortunately that was in my past life.
So ,I got the guts.I left.After 6 months I had my confidence back.I went out and got deliciously screwed.This set me on a promiscuous course again,and it wasnt long before I ended up in bed with two men,at a party.The door was supposed to have been locked.Some one came in,not that I took any notice,because I was in my orgasmic paradise.About an hour later a quietly spoken guy with lovely eyes asked if he could take me to lunch next day.I said yes,I'd love to.
Six months later we got married.He too had been in a marriage that had stifled him.Every time he asked his wife to let him watch her masturbate,she rebuked him,demeaned him and humiliated him.
So here was a man who wanted to watch,married to a woman who wanted to be watched.Not only that but we understood the other.Not WHY we liked it but just that we DID.So we talked and talked and fantasised and we talked some more.Then one day he said would I hate him if he asked to see what he had the first time he had ever seen me?I knew what he meant,I smiled at him,and said,"only if you let me watch you watching".
He cried.It was the enormous relief.For the first time in his life he knew he could fulfill his desires,his fantasies,without being shamed,made to feel dirty,depraved.
So that was it.I can have what I've always desired,while I am satisfying my husbands life long desire. We will broarden our experience as we go along,because we are not prudes or shy but in the meantime we are loving every day of our existence.
I hope that answers your question.