I still think there is a distinctive difference between a cheater and "most" swingers. I say "most" because we have had experience with the couple that uses it in place of out and out cheating behind their spouses back like Jncc mentioned.
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Originally Posted by Jncc Likewise, swinging. I honestly believe some people do it in lieu of cheating. I also believe others do it because they find it an intensely bonding experience. |
One couple we met would always come to the club and she would hunt down a single male and disappear to a room with him. Sure enough some time later a fight would occur and they'd leave. To much drama!!
And the husband is hurt and frustrated. She was a cheater under the guise of swinger.
We look for the people who are in it for the intense bonding experience they have together as a couple. If we know someone is cheating we'll let them know how we feel about it and definately not play. Can't change them or stop anyone who doesn't care from playing with them but we don't want any part of it. Doesn't matter if it's a male or female. We found out after play with a single female that she was cheating.
Can't take the play back but it won't happen again.
So like Curious said we can't change the world or the fact that there are cheaters out there. But we want no part of it and don't condon it.
Mrs Spoomonkey