[EternallySingle]

I didn't see this post before. If I had, what I wrote at the end of your husband's post I would have written here. I won't say your friend used you and your husband to get back to the point where she could feel comfortable being sexual with a man, but in a sense, that is what happened. Actually, that is what you said you wanted from her in the other post. Now that it has happened, you want to know who she is going to be with when she decides to be with him.

I think you need to step back a bit and reevaluate your feelings for your freind. Is she a same sex best friend and sex partner for you and your husband, or is she a little sister you are trying to guide and protect, and sex is a bonus because you aren't related? Your relationship with her is a little murky in your mind, according to the two posts I've read. That is making you anxious about where you stand with her, and that is the seed of jealousy.

You and your husband have discussed the relationship the three of you have together. Now you have to get a handle on where you stand with her one-on-one. I think that you see her as a sister you don't want to see hurt, and the fact that you have had sex has mad that concern manifest itself as jealousy. I hope thats the case, because the alternative is that you want her to yourself, and if it came down to only having her or your husband, you would choose her because you have more in common.

I don't think you want her more than your husband, so you have to resign yourself to the fact that she doesn't need your emotional protection from men anymore.